good spouse

Finding your spouse

After experiencing the ingame "relationships" for years with friends and once myself I decided to write a guide how to find the perfect spouse, how to treat him/her and what to do and not to do. This guide is written on my own experiences so don't think this will always work.

If you married someone who just random walked by and send you a rose and then asked you, you are better off not reading this guide then.

This guide is only for people who take the marriage thing serious, with friends or more. I wrote this because I see people failing at getting a spouse daily so this is for them.

While reading this guide, if you notice the other person doesn't feel the same way as you at any point of this guide it's over and you will have to find yourself another person (for example if she makes it clear she is not interested).





What is a spouse?
A spouse is an ingame husband or wife, you can marry to the opposite sex whenever you want, it requires nothing except that you both agree with it.

Why should I get a spouse?
Having a spouse has his up and downsides. The biggest upside is that you have someone to spend your ingame time with, you can do everything together and have fun at all times. The downside is, if it goes wrong you will get more drama then you ever imagined, especially with sensitive people since a friendship can be completely destroyed.

So why take the risk?
That is a choice you will have to make, if the marriage succeeds you get even closer, as friends or more. If it fails, then everything will be damaged severe and the friendship will never be the same.

So how to find your spouse?
Many guys, to many for words make the mistake by starting to hit on a girl right away, this is just wrong.

As some of you know I play my sister her char often to make some extra eps for myself, as soon as I log her, walk in market and stand there for 1 hour I get flowers, kiss emoticons and I get hit on ...

They don't know I'm a guy playing a female char (which is normal since it's accepted that way in every game except eudemons online).

How to do it right:
First of all, don't set the goal at becoming spouses, if you do this it will most certainly fail at all times. Become friends, enjoy the game and get to know each other as friends, don't start to ask about personal things immediately.

After you became good friends (can take weeks to months often) and you want him/her as spouse you can start to spend more time together. Start to invite the other to everything you do (build this up slowly), if that person says "no" accept it and just go do your thing.

Keep doing this for a while, see if his/her behaviour changes a bit towards you, like he/she will always come when you ask. This means your friendship is growing at a good rate.

What to do next?
Keep doing this untill you feel you are ready to go to the next stage, the "hitting" on him/her. Once you know that person is a great person to you and you really want to have him/her as spouse you will have to start by getting hints of him/her on how about he/she thinks about the marriage thing.

If he/she says it's lame or don't want to do it with anyone or anything like this, well you failed and you will have to find yourself someone else (you can still stay close friends at this point without any damage).

If he/she talks positive about it you can slowly start to hit on, things you can do:

As a guy:
* Send her your daily flower
* Give her compliments on her attire (every girl picks one they like, its like with clothes in reallife)
* Compliment her on her achievements.
* Listen to her and support her at any time, be there for her.

As a girl:
* Give him a hug once in a while.
* Give him compliments on his attire (every guy picks one they like, its like with clothes in reallife)
* Compliment him on his achievements.
* Listen to him and support him at any time, be there for him.

The mistake MANY guys make is by sending 99/999 roses the first time and say things like "I love you", this scares woman off and you will fail badly at all times.

Once you get closer you can start collecting hints if he/she is interested in a marriage with you, like if you see someone getting married, bring that up, something like: "Oh look how cute, they got married." And from that point you try to keep the conversation about that going but do NOT push it, if the girl is closing that subject then just close it and continue with whatever you were doing.

You can also start sending 1/3/9 roses to the girl once you get closer, do not start with 99/999. Or you can invite him/her to heartlake and sit there together.

When to ask him/her to marry me?
That is something I can't answer for you, you will have to use your own mind for that, when you think the time is right you can ask her. For example, one of my friends ask the girl to marry him when they were sitting at heartlake.

Yay we are married!
Grats on your marriage, now the fun is just starting, you can just stay friends and enjoy the time together, get to know each other better.